Do you guys
think that what people call love these days is just a farce as with some relationships/ marriages? Share with me a letter
that was written by my Dad (R.I.P) 20 years ago to the love of his life- Mother
that is *files nails*
lol
7th
June, 94
Nkem Darling,
I hope you must
have received my message through Mr. Akaoke and that you are trying to cope
still. How are you and the children? I know the strong remains of that of
loneliness, insecurity and ‘fear’ but they should all be vanishing now.
I hope you are
still your old self? This June is the time by God’s grace. You will get all you
have missed. I do wish to meet you very healthy and with ‘enough skin’ but not
too fat. I decided to write to assure that I am okay. I am enclosing
some money for your use.
Your Love
Chuks..
Your Love
Chuks..
Actually, the
letter was long, but I’d like to lay emphasis on a few things. To say that the love people express these days is nothing short from disappointing is a better word for it. Little wonder some ladies/men mutter ‘I don’t want to get married’. Do I blame them? NO! Many feel like they are yet to find
one, cause if the ma/woman they are presently dating will be the same replica of a husband/wife
they’d rather remain single. I am not in any way trying to compare the 70s,
80s, even 90s love with ours. Errrmm, may be, but you'll have to forgive me.
So what exactly happened then that has ceased from happening in our time? In the past, very
little people owned land phones, yet that didn’t stop dad to resort to letter
writing. Presently, we literally live in the age of technology, yet, some wouldn’t
even call or text their partners to ask how they been doing even if they took a WALK
away from home. I have also heard that in Nigeria most men believe that once a
woman is married to them, there wasn’t any need for the chase and that the only
time they buzzed, texted or called per second was when they were still trying
to woo their women- long hiss! Others would also say that since they were going
to see their women later that day, or say return from a trip soon, that it made
no sense trying to ‘waste’ call
credit. (Now, ask yourself this. Does any of the above sound logical?) Yet, you
guys will create more than enough time for things that don’t matter ehn kwa?
A man has to provide
for his family. I expect that she understands that I’m always busy. (Oh,
Brother, you should be lucky you have the ability to, because many are 6 feet
below). This excuse is making me want to puke. You must also be aware that when
you don’t make her your priority, another man will. It is that simple. What
makes you think that our fathers or men in the 80s or even before didn’t commit
to their wives amid the I-m-busy-chasing-paper lyrics?
More recently, I hear that because the women our days nag this has made it
justifiably the reason love may seem to have eroded. Also, because the woman has added many pounds/ kilos that
has made me love her less. Guy, you must be on dope or sizzrup
to say the least. When you married her, was she as obese as you want to paint
her now? Why don’t you tell her how you’d love for her to retain her size, or
even help her achieve that. Just because
you feel she’s got those cellulites, stretch marks, sagged boobs, and so on
suddenly you lost interest in the woman you said you’d spend your whole
lifetime with? Purleease gimme a BREAK!
While I know
that love many not entirely be the center of a RELATIONSHIP but Friendship, let
alone the reason for marriage in the first place. I still think that one should
be able to respect , tolerate, communicate, be
open as well as loving to their partners so much
that that they can stay yours . Real men are dedicated to ONE woman when they are involved with that WOMAN!
P.S Ladies
and Gents if you liked/ enjoyed this post, please feel free to leave your
comments below, else I will go on a compulsory fast… lol
Photo Credit:
Mom’s Archives, 20years in Love, RIP Dadda.
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